The principle of psychotherapy is that the conscious mind and the subconscious mind can be connected and united. Without Unity, consciousness is divided, and there are several selves within one head. Several of them wanted to be the master, and that was the source of the trouble. It’s like the left hand wants to hold something, and the right hand is against the left, so you can imagine the trouble.
But there is the unconscious and the subconscious, and it is difficult to reconcile, because everyone is repressed growing up -- , from the moment a baby drinks milk, to the experience of human suffering. If the parent wants to give the baby a small mouthful of milk that has not been drunk. The baby may be full and true to his or her feelings, but he or she will not drink. Parents will put a bottle in the baby’s mouth and the baby will turn his or her head the other way. If the adult continues, the baby may cry in protest. If the adult continues to stuff the milk into the baby’s mouth, the baby may choose to force the milk down emotionally. Repression creates a split and subconscious mind, and the earlier it is repressed, the more subconscious it may be. So we can think about. From the moment we are babies to the moment we grow up, how much we don’t accept about ourselves, how much we repress into our subconscious, how deep is our subconscious?
There are also children who are attacked by their parents as children, whether verbally or violently, as abused children, beaten and scolded, and subjected to undignified or even death threats. In order to live, he had to temporarily forget these uncomfortable feelings, or even to use happiness to forget his pain, otherwise it was too unbearable.
So some children develop some form of dissociative fantasy as they grow up. Fantasize about doing something fun, a game, an addiction. Allow yourself to switch or pursue a career success quickly to get out of your childhood situation. Outwardly, they may have charming or sweet smiles, but subconsciously they have memories of past tragedies. Geographically, some people feel that it is better to get as far away as possible, even to escape from their families, to escape from a certain city, country, culture, race. What they really do is to close their hearts, let yourself be in some kind of positive creative cause, there is a feeling of boundless good sunshine.
But the pain of the subconscious, like a dragon, always in their casual place to run out. Like a game of whac-a-mole, just hit this number down, will come from another place, let oneself exhausted, finally proud of himself to pull down.
There may also be those who, in their native homes, witnessed the disharmony of the family, either on the side of their father against their mother, or on the side of their mother against their father, or who felt that their parents were beyond help and wanted to escape. Or because of various needs in the family to play a variety of self-sacrifice role.
Some become heroes in their families, lightening the load on their parents. Or playing the role of instead of parents, to lead the other siblings in the family, so that the family prosperity, but broken heart, but may suffer a loss to ingratiate, but can not stop.
Some have become martyrs within the family, in order to parents can be harmonious, choose sick or other victimized way, to divert the family’s attention, in order to get their desired results, feel sad and stirring.
Some develop into a sweet little ingratiator, to amuse their parents, grow up to form a ingratiating mode can not extricate themselves.
Others choose to hide from their parents and, like the invisible man, slowly develop a fear of the group’s sight, with a lot of guilt, unwilling to show their talents and talents.
Others develop into rebels, gradually developing a pattern of opposing for opposing, and unconsciously becoming troublemakers, stirring up trouble.
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Slowly, as subconscious and unconscious habits work, they also bring to their friendships, relationships, and even families what they accumulated as children.
However, all of this, in fact, since childhood began to repeat and accumulate, in the depths of our unconscious contain the answer. If we think of our lives as a movie, it’s just like a Click movie. We like to fast-forward in uncomfortable places, jumping jacks. And that’s why? What we experience as children can be forgotten, and only a few images can be recalled.
But my childhood self was like the first card in a domino effect. We’ve all seen a game where the first domino is so small, it’s as small as a fingernail, and he can push it in sequence, and the second Domino, the third domino that gets bigger and bigger, gets bigger and bigger, and eventually, even pushes it, a domino almost bigger than a house. It’s the same thing inside of us, that little decision we make when we’re kids, it affects us for the rest of our lives.
There is a saying that life after the age of three repeats what happened before the age of three, because the core beliefs of human beings (things we believe in deeply) are already constructed at the age of three.
Counseling, the person who has walked this path, is like having a mental map of how he or she will accompany the visitor into his or her subconscious. Or, like a person who has done a life movie rewind, more able to stop at the location of the film, and not fast turn, do not change the channel, just to see the real happened. And See Yourself in a different light. From a loathing, anger, ignorance, suffering, rejection, resentment, to a self that accepts awareness and appreciation.
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