1: reduce self-blame, focus on progress;
I’ve led two different teams with different management styles.
One is to focus on deficiencies, criticism of such a poor performance, how to go home for the New Year, and so on;
One is to focus on the best parts of the day, give them encouragement and confidence every day, and tell them that they can reach their annual goals with a little more effort.
As a result, the second team every day like chicken blood, the best performance. The other team, on the other hand, had a bad vibe and a mediocre performance.
The trick I gave was to ask everyone on the team to post what they or the team were most happy about, showing off their happiness, their hopes, and their dreams
Find a way to let off steam
Case in point: the Guangdong Boss I spoke to earlier broke down a very important business deal in Hong Kong. The deal meant a lot to him. He drove for more than eight hours, full of negative thoughts, i even tried to drive off into the river. Why is there so much pressure? Because he can’t let it out. He said: There is a job, he did not dare to speak to his subordinates, in front of his subordinates to establish confidence. I can’t tell my parents because the good news is not good news. I can’t tell my wife because we don’t talk about work at home. I Don’t talk to my clients. I Can’t talk to my clients without asking for money. .
What you care about is not your ability to resist stress, but your ability to stay motivated in the face of it.
You need to find someone who will listen to you and let you cry in front of him, a best friend, a gay friend, a parent, etc. .
You know, when you’re done, you’re gonna be motivated. You just need someone.
Delta 3: lower expectations
“Put a gun to someone’s head and tell them to give me $100 million a month or I’ll shoot you.”?
However, a lot of people do this when they consult with me.
The biggest reason you’re stressed, you’re not prepared enough? Isn’t it? Then try. Even if it doesn’t work out, it’s the best way. Everyone’s starting point is different, so don’t make blind comparisons.
For example, a non-verbal person, to do the work of sales, month by month to take the minimum wage, to support themselves, the pressure is great.
I said why not change jobs, he said he wanted to practice his eloquence through sales. What if I told you to find someone who can talk and make money? He said, “Yeah.”.
You should set a goal that you can reach with a bit of padding, because we know that people are most motivated when they are close to achieving their goals. Instead of setting too high a goal, let yourself adjust your mindset often. Set a higher goal when you’ve achieved that goal. Aim Too High and you’ll kill yourself.
△④：IF...Then...
This is a great way to improve your performance in the face of stress.
For example:
If I get nervous on stage, I drink water/wipe the blackboard;
If I don’t pass this test, I’ll...
A lot of times, you plan for the worst, but you don’t think it’s the worst.
For example, when I took the college entrance examination, I imagined that if I didn’t get into a really bad school, then I would go to a normal university. Think again about the advantages of a general university over a key university? Think I can do a chicken head, I can get more exercise opportunities, I can also go to a key university to find students, I can get a key university teacher training... Instead of thinking about the advantages, I think that the ordinary university is actually quite good, even better than the key universities. And did not think seriously, the total feeling did not pass the exam good terror, I believe you have the same feeling.
Everything has good and bad, not necessarily did not pass the exam means bad things. I consult a lot of people, are too much to the failure of the results of the dark;
For example, they think that if they don’t get into graduate school, it will mean a big change in their whole life. In fact, as someone who has been there before, they think it will have a much smaller impact.
5: Change People’s mode of thinking
This method is very simple, some people will feel low, but really change the nature of my poor psychological quality in the past. So pay attention.
My paragraph is the thought of the exam, immediately a feeling of anxiety. It’s built into the mind.
Include later period of time, think of me this month target on the brain big, fretful, pressure is big, affect oneself normal play.
The same is true of coaching in many cases!
I believe you also have such inertia!
You can choose a mobile app, to record their habits, I use the tick list, of course, you can also use paper posted on the wall and other obvious places, Mark;
As soon as you think xxx (something stressful) , let yourself find that “Believe that you can and must do it”feeling and make a super-confident gesture.
If you do it, check it out or count it as positive, and you’ll get used to it in no time.
Later, when I thought about the exam, I felt like I was going for it.
How good it feels to check that you’re really not avoiding anything every day, and that’s like. Think about how much of your present good qualities are not reflected in the little bits of praise others give you. If you have children, each time the child is a little bit better, you clap your hands, a little longer he will form.
For more than half a year, I have to face up to as a joy. Really psychological quality, anti-pressure and anti-frustration ability is much better than before!
Exercise properly
This period of pressure, you go to do your favorite sport, playing basketball, playing badminton, sweaty after a bath, you still have pressure?
Finally, everyone’s growth needs a process, do not be too anxious, step by step is the best progress.
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