Feelings are very strange. When two people are together, we always do not understand the meticulous details. Good morning and good night every day, as well as meticulous care for everything. In order to make you happy, the other person always Will do everything possible. But all of this is always difficult for us to understand, or that we have become accustomed to the other party doing this. Today, I will tell you from the perspective of psychology why we only remember the other person's good when we really lose each other, and then know how to cherish it.
The fundamental reason why we only know how to cherish after losing is because "losing" breaks the normal state of "owning", and we cannot return to the state we have been used to, making us unable to adapt to the current lifestyle and feel uncomfortable and troubled. So we instinctively began to work hard to find the state of life we want, so all these imbalances caused us to cherish after losing, so the more we lose, the more we will think of the people and people we ignore. thing. These reasons are all due to people’s unsuitability caused by dependence to a certain extent. This is very normal, but it is also a pity. Our discomfort is not only because of this inappropriateness, but because we understand how precious what we have lost. .
When we have love, you may feel dissatisfied or even bored, but once it is lost, we will be extremely uncomfortable and we will know how precious and hard-won love is. In fact, people learn to cherish and understand to cherish not suddenly, but because of the emotions caused by the recognition of the cost of loss. This is why it is said that distance produces beauty, because distance makes us lose something, so we know the preciousness of each other, and become more cherish and love each other. When we are unable to have the good things we have had before, we will be helpless and panic involuntarily.
Each of us is born with possessive psychology. There are many couples in life who obviously don't love each other anymore, but they don't break up with each other and don't want to give each other to others. Although their hearts are gone, they are always with each other, satisfying their possessive hearts. But in fact, their hearts are not really that dark. She just doesn't know how to maintain this relationship. They don't know how to repair a broken relationship and continue to get lost in this directionless relationship. Until the other person chooses to leave, he will feel pain and sadness, and even regret that he didn't know how to cherish him when he had the other person. But in fact, his heart has been derailed countless times, and all of this is due to the selfishness of human nature.
Each of us has the ability to analyze things. When we encounter losses, we will involuntarily calculate the gains and opportunities that may arise in our future lives. It's like being with him for so long, will it affect oneself to find the next partner, or that the best youth has been given to each other, is it possible to find a more suitable partner under the current conditions, etc.? But as we grow older, we can't afford many things, but we lose the truly beautiful things around us because of some desires.
Therefore, for those who know how to cherish after losing, their loss not only allows them to understand each other's good, but also makes them aware of the various possible crises they may face after the loss.
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