Some time ago, I discussed the psychological status of modern people with several psychologists. We found that many people have a mental illness-entanglement. I don’t know since when, the people around us are getting more and more entangled, and we are getting more and more entangled. The reason is that we have not fully understood the following two things.
1. "The Law of Not Worth" can actually guide our lives
The big reason why we are entangled is because we don't know how to make various choices in life. There are several opposite sexes pursuing you, each with its own advantages and disadvantages, you are entangled; facing your career, you don’t know which industry or direction you should be in, you’re entangled; you even go to the vegetable market to buy food, you don’t even know You will still struggle with what to buy.
In social psychology, there is a word called "the law of not worth doing ", which means that what is not worth doing is not worth doing well . This simple sentence actually contains great value.
First of all, we have to distinguish between these things, which are worthwhile and which are not. What is worth doing, we must do our best wholeheartedly, what is not worth doing, we must choose to choose.
For example, for choosing a spouse, what do you think is the most important for the other half? His wealth status is still humorous, or kind and gentle, establish a most worthwhile thing, and then decide.
For another example, for a career, do you think interest is more important, or making money is more important, whether it is more important for nine to five in the morning, or 996 is more important. If you think your hobbies are more important, go find your own heart. Don't worry too much about your short-term income, because time will pay you back.
2. The "law of watches" can make us live more easily
The "law of watches" states a very simple truth: a person who owns two watches cannot accurately determine the time. The derivative meaning is-fish and bear's paw can not have both.
We can't have two sets of standards to perform one thing at the same time. For example, you require your lover to have a variety of styles and your lover to be honest and honest. This is a completely opposite thing unless he learns to deceive.
This law tells us that one cannot be too greedy. Don’t look for a spare tire emotionally. If you want others to treat you like a boyfriend and girlfriend, but don’t want others to be your boyfriend and girlfriend, it’s better to be greedy, and ugly to be wicked.
In your career, you want to work overtime every day 996 to make money, and you also want to spend a lot of time with your family in good health every day. This is not practical.
This law tells us that we can ask each other to be perfect, but don't force it. In modern society, no one takes two watches to go out, or even a watch, because we have mobile phones to watch the time, and the Internet is everywhere. Then, the greater meaning of the watch is just decoration.
Yes, it’s the icing on the cake, and it does not affect the time. In the same way, we can ask others and even lovers to meet our requirements. For example, we must be very profitable, but can we not be happy if we cannot make a lot of money? Obviously not. It is better to have money, but a little less money can't starve to death. The key to happiness is the mentality and learn to be content and happy.
The above two laws complement each other and can help people who are often struggling to manage their lives beautifully. Of course, if you say "everyone knows the truth, but you can't do it." Then ask yourself, can you really do it? Or you didn’t even try.
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