The five words "good people get good rewards" are rare in real life! Often the more the wicked, the more happy they are.
Some people will say to such a phenomenon: It is not that it is not reported, the time is not yet!
But is this not the "self-comfort" that people make in the face of evil?
Some people believe in superstitious "retribution", and some believe in actual cause and effect .
It's just those good people who are not respected and bullied, they are only willing to use other people's seemingly calm smiles to bear the sadness that only they know.
The better the person, the easier it is to lose their bottom line and fail to protect their integrity.
In interpersonal relationships, the reality we must admit is that if there is no value, there must be no relationship between people. But a more realistic reality than this reality is that some people are only willing to ask you and consume you, but they have never had anything to do with you in their hearts.
Both are to "use" you. Because you are too "good".
You are good at talking and doing things. You are so good that you never know what rejection and your own sharpness are. Therefore, some people have spotted your point and will "get an inch of it" on you.
Why the better the person, the less the "respect" of others? Why is the better the person, the more likely to be "bully"? Why can't you be grateful to respond?
In fact, the truth behind these three reasons are all unified, and the reason is very simple:
First: People who are accustomed to empathy and accommodating are those who are accustomed to being "bully"
Regardless of work or life, we often see some people who are best at "sticking gold" on their faces to kidnap others morally.
In addition, for the empathy and help others give to yourself, you either think that you have done what you should in the early stage, or completely and selectively ignore it.
In short, such a person for others to pay one point he would think the deep sea is like grace, others pay for their own 120 points of truth, he also believes that compare their own pay half a point more.
More often, people who are accustomed to empathic thinking and accommodating others, or even "putting a knife" for others, are most likely to be "utilized" by those who have the intention.
So that when he needs to be transposed and cut with two ribs, it can only be a pot of cold water splashed over and followed by a burst of "cool breeze".
I don't know how many people have nowhere to complain about this kind of experience, or how many people hate those who are ungrateful.
In fact, the more you can insight into human nature, the more you will find that what you should hate and resent is never someone else, but yourself. Moreover, all your bitterness is poured into your own belly one cup after another.
It should be your chance. You see him very pitiful, you kindly gave it to him; obviously you are too busy to take care of yourself, but when you see him, you just cater to his feelings; you are already riddled with holes, but you again I don’t think I can do things that just turn my face...
In the face of human nature, personal desires and gains and losses are what most people care about most. If they need to consume others to achieve their own goals without paying the cost, they will definitely do it.
And you, in the face of others neglecting you for your own sake, you should also have the ability to "please yourself".
Once the ability to please oneself is sealed by oneself, it will only bear the consumption and bullying of others for the sake of one's own face, for fear of who is dissatisfied, and who can't bear to see who is uncomfortable.
Second: Some people’s gains are what you are used to
As a human being, never forget to leave blank for yourself. You must have it when you should be sharp, and you don't have to bear it when you should fight back.
A really good relationship involves dealing with everything. The one-way consumed relationship is originally an unequal relationship.
When someone else is in trouble, you do your best to help, whether it's to talk with you, get drunk with you, or help with money or get out... If this kind of relationship doesn't turn around, isn't it just giving the other side a chance to make progress?
In this world, what kind of person can best control his life? There is only one answer, and that is people who are not easy to accommodate others.
It is okay to accommodate others, but the premise is not to accommodate endlessly , or even make yourself psychologically unbalanced or hurt yourself.
If a person loses his bottom line just because he is afraid that his interpersonal relationship will end in embarrassment, it means that he has never left room for himself, and has never conveyed his true demands.
In any kind of relationship between people, it is not difficult for us to find that the more people who take themselves improperly, the less respect they receive from others. Even the words and deeds of others will harm him intentionally or unintentionally, and he disagrees.
When people are alive, they are afraid that they lack the ability to say "no" to people.
The employee’s contribution is not directly proportional to the salary, but if the employee never tells it, the boss will think, “In fact, the treatment given to you is pretty good, and you have been very satisfied...”
If you don’t say something, others will naturally not think that you have done too much. At least, if you say it, even if he sometimes acts maliciously, he will deliberately pay attention to his words and deeds in the future.
Everyone should live his own protagonist. Look at the people who "use" you to satisfy themselves. They live well because they know how to please themselves.
And you, although you don't want to be such an "evil" person, don't forget to set a proper bottom line, make a clear stand, and please yourself. Otherwise, what is the difference between you and those who hurt yourself?
Your unbearableness and face, this is often a prerequisite for helping the wicked achieve their goals.
If someone hurts you, you will start to think that you are too much if you just say "I'm sorry"; even if someone else doesn't have a sincere attitude, you think it's fine!
Actually, forget it, it's you who are too persuaded!
Having said that, I want to tell everyone that I am not trying to cause an unpleasant fight, nor is it that people must be self-interested.
I just want to tell those people who are often stuck on their noses without paying back, and those who "use" endlessly say:
Life is short, if you are willing to be a great contributor, don't have any psychological imbalance. Otherwise, you have to set up armor for yourself in the bottom line and edge to defend against external damage.
The so-called friend, you have to act as a spiritual comfort master when you encounter annoying things; also when you are replaced by you, the other party doesn't even bother to say "um" to you;
Your so-called good colleague often asks you to bring meals and share the work. When you change to you, the other party directly tells you "inconvenient..."
After someone borrows money from you, they not only do not promptly but also think that you have done something "not human" when dunning the money;
The child counseling of relatives has never asked if you are free at the moment. If you do not respond in time, you will say, "What's so great about studying for a few days..."
Between lovers, the other party always ignores your feelings and thoughts when they are throwing their hands away, but never allows you to have any emotions, otherwise you will be "unqualified..."
In fact, in real life, people who bully you and consume people are really everywhere.
If you can't achieve the Buddha's four emptiness, then you have to show your own untouchable yellow line for your own feelings.
Life is yours. If you want it to be worse or relatively smooth, only you have the final say.
In many cases, you think that more is worse than less, and it is to leave a chance for more!
A hundred years of life will be fleeting. Learn to say "no" to people who consume yourself, disrespect yourself, or hurt yourself over and over again, and cut off the relationship if necessary to stop the loss in time.
You know, when they consume you, disrespect you, and hurt you time and time again, they never really regard you as a person in his life. The dispensation you have for him depends entirely on how much of the use value you have been bombed out.
And you, never want to enjoy the treatment of the right relationship in an equal relationship.
Human nature is evil, and the world is never perfect.
If you don't know how to dominate your own life, you will be trampled on at will and make you miserable.
In this life, the only person who should accommodate and please is himself! As for others, it depends on whether your relationship is equal and mutually beneficial. Otherwise, it's okay to be alone! It is not the right thing to please others.
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