Analysis of the causes of shyness

Harmfulness is a personality trait, manifested as feeling uncomfortable, nervous, avoiding contact with others, and emotional social inhibition in social situations. The bad guys dare not look at others. When others talk to him, he always shrinks. He speaks very quietly, making him unwilling to talk to others. Mild harm is not important, but severe harm (ie, social anxiety disorder) may make people feel depressed, fearful, and anxious. Inhibition and lack of self-esteem

1. Factors affecting shyness

What are the causes of the harm? From the perspective of psychological factors, there are three main problems. First of all, poor people lack social skills and therefore lack the ability to interact with others. Many people are bad at seeing people because they have not learned how to say hello when they encounter them, or how to take the initiative to talk with others, and how to continue the conversation.

Another reason for the bad is social anxiety, that is, there is a feeling of anxiety in front of others, and each of us will have this kind of tension on certain occasions. For example, when you meet a woman who is very attractive to you, you may not know what to say. These are typical responses to evaluate fear, that is, fear that you will be ridiculed or opposed by others because of your inappropriate behavior. Put yourself in an awkward situation. Although this fear is very common, bad people are more intense than the average person (BJTN).

The third problem is the self-defeating prejudice in the mind of shy people (the distortion and distortion of thinking affects the performance of behavior), especially when social activities are not smooth, they always blame themselves too much, and there is no need to drop self-criticism.

2. Situational factors of shyness

From the perspective of the situational cause, the disadvantages are usually caused by new and unfamiliar social situations. A person may appear unrestrained when getting along with relatives and friends, but becomes bad when he meets strangers. In addition, the intensity of a person's shyness is often related to etiquette, the social status of the person with whom he interacts, the degree of difference between himself and others, and the focus of attention. For example, when a person gives a speech, most people feel shy (Larsen&Buss20103).

In the above-mentioned situations, most people become cautious and restrained, but there are differences in personality between the bad guys and ordinary people.

3. Personality dynamics of the poor

In terms of personality dynamics, most people believe that shy people are shy because they are too focused on their feelings and thoughts. But the research results of psychologists Cheek and Buss are contrary to this, the harm has nothing to do with individual self-consciousness. Individual self-awareness refers to the concern for one's own feelings, thoughts and fantasies, while public self-awareness refers to the concern for oneself as a member of society. Those with a strong public self-awareness are more concerned about others' evaluations of themselves, so they are always afraid of saying or doing something wrong. In public, they feel that others can see through themselves at a glance. This feeling can cause anxiety and fear, and make them feel embarrassed and at a loss in the social process. At the same time, due to the role of anxiety, bad actors are more likely to have false perceptions of other people’s reactions and feel that they are acting stupid in public.

Although each of us feels anxious on certain occasions, there is a fundamental difference between the bad guys and ordinary people in interpreting this anxiety. Those who are bad people tend to interpret this social anxiety as a lasting personality trait, while most people think that their badness is caused by external situations. In other words, the "shyness" of the shy person becomes part of the self-concept, and most people think that others are similar to themselves in the same environment, and they will feel shy and stage fright.

Two different explanations will directly affect one's self-esteem, so they are very important. Generally speaking, people who are not shy have stronger self-esteem than people who are bad, and therefore have confidence in social success. Once there is a failure, they will look for the reason from the external environment, but the bad people will be the opposite. They will blame themselves for the failure in social interaction, have no confidence to succeed, and always feel that they are opposed to it.