In many cases, the relationship between adults is not as complicated as we think.
If a person does not refuse some of your requirements, it means allowing or agreeing. Even if the window paper has not been pierced for the time being, the closer relationship between each other is real.
When it comes to a certain period, the relationship is basically confirmed by saying everything to each other and expressing their hearts.
This is especially true between men and women. Although there is a fundamental difference between love and friendship, in real life, many people do not dare to express their sincerity easily because they are not confident enough, so they choose to love each other in the name of friendship.
When someone asks, they will lie and just treat him as an ordinary friend. From the perspective of psychology, love and non-love are extremely obvious, just like a cough, which cannot be hidden.
If the other person also has a good opinion of you, then the relationship between each other will easily become closer. If not, it may lead to a complete deterioration of the relationship. In the end, not only will you fail to become a lover, you may also fail to become a friend.
After all, feelings are never a one-man show of one person, not wishful thinking. Only when you go both ways, all your efforts are meaningful.
In order to avoid unnecessary misunderstandings and prevent the fate between each other from being lost easily, in the process of getting along with the opposite sex, we must know how to grasp the sense of proportion and boundary.
If you really like the other person, tell him bravely not to hurt others and yourself in the ambiguous. If you don't like it, you explicitly reject it, so as not to become embarrassed with each other and even friends can't do it.
It's just that the world we live in is not black and white. Sometimes there are some gray areas between black and white. For example, we are not sure whether our relationship with each other crosses the boundaries of friends.
If you have similar confusion, you may wish to refer to the following three points. In the process of getting along with the opposite sex, if the other party makes three requests and you do not refuse, it probably means that you are already at a stage of ambiguity.
One: When you offer to be alone, the other party did not refuse, or even looked forward to it
In most cases, if you are just ordinary friends of the opposite sex, you will not think about being alone all day. Unless one of them is moved by the other and gradually shifts from friendship to love.
In the American writer Louisa May Alcott's family ethics novel "Little Women", the heroes and heroines Laurie and Joe are a typical case.
Before adulthood, Laurie and Joe had been getting along as friends. The two were childhood sweethearts and grew up together. They were intimate with each other and talked about everything.
But as he got older, Laurie's feelings for Joe changed. He no longer regarded Joe as his best friend, but as his future wife. So on the day of college graduation, he deliberately created the opportunity to get along with Joe alone. , And then confidently confessed to her.
But what he didn't expect was that Joe just regarded him as an ordinary friend without any love element, so he directly rejected his marriage proposal.
It can be seen from this that whether a girl likes a person is easy to see. If she refuses to be alone with you, she probably guessed your mind and chose to refuse, otherwise she will accept you in a different form , Encourage you, and respond to you as soon as possible.
Two: When you make some ambiguous jokes, the other person will feel shy and acquiesce
If you have ever had a crush on someone, you will probably understand that, in fact, in many cases, the more you love someone, the less courage you are to say it. Because when you love each other, you will instinctively beautify the other person, and the feeling of inferiority will also arise from this.
In this case, it is difficult to muster the courage to confess directly, but not willing to give up, so I will get along with the other party in another way, pretending to be the other party’s best friend, and then at a certain moment, have some ambiguities with him. joke. Express your feelings on the one hand, and test the attitude of the other person on the other.
This kind of cautiousness makes it easy to carry a crush to the extreme.
Before being with her boyfriend, my friend Xiao Ting had been getting along as a normal friend, but I don't know when she started making ambiguous jokes with her.
At a friend gathering, he lied that Xiao Ting was his girlfriend. Xiao Ting felt very shy at the time, so she did not deny it on the spot. It didn't take long for the two to confirm the relationship.
Later, Xiaoting asked him, the two were just friends at the time, why did they make such a joke? The other party said that he just wanted to test it out, and if Xiaoting denied it, she would end in a joke. If there is no denial, it is regarded as a bonus.
You see, most of the time, the truth is often told in the form of jokes. If a friend of the opposite sex often tells you some jokes that cross the boundaries of friends, it is very likely that you are emotional.
Three: When you subconsciously make physical contact, the other party chooses to cooperate and respond positively
If friends of the opposite sex get along and they no longer avoid physical contact with each other, then it probably means that the two are tacitly tacit and acquiesce to each other.
After all, there are differences between men and women, and ordinary friends will inevitably grasp the sense of proportion. Once this sense of proportion is blurred, it means that the relationship between the two is no longer pure.
Any relationship is inseparable from intentional management. Whether a man or a woman, one party must take the initiative. Only such a relationship can develop further.
Under normal circumstances, it is the man who takes the initiative. If you subconsciously have some physical contact with the other party, the other party not only does not refuse, but actively cooperates and responds, which means that she also has a good impression of you and acquiesced. You can have further actions.
If you have reached this point, it is only a matter of time before the relationship is confirmed.
Analyzed from the perspective of psychology, love arises from the secretion of hormones. When you get along with the opposite sex, if you always have some physical impulses, it means that you have been deeply attracted by the other person and look forward to further possibilities. .
Our life seems to be long, and it seems that we will meet many people, but there are only a few who are really fate.
If you meet a person who is tempted, please be sure to seize the opportunity, bravely confess, and don't let the fate slip away quietly, so as not to leave a lifetime regret.
In the process of getting along with the opposite sex, if you make the above three requirements and the other party does not refuse, it probably means that the two are already in an ambiguous stage. Enjoy the beauty of the ambiguous period, but also have a good sense of measure to avoid misunderstandings and miss it.
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