Bill Gates and Melinda announced their divorce.The marriage, which has been sweet for 27 years in the eyes of the public, ends after a divorce agreement.
It's Valentine's Day 2020, and gates also takes a picture of Melinda walking around the fruit market, and the essay says, "I can't find a better partner in my life.".
In everyone's sobs, the divorce reason of the two people has become a bright spot.
"Continuing to maintain a marriage relationship cannot allow each other to continue to improve," the divorce statement said
I'm afraid that the reason for such a big divorce can only be thought of by the best people who are the richest in the world.
But it seems that the reason why I think about it is utilitarian and cool.
Think about our vows when we get married: "no matter the good or the adversity, whether poor or rich, health or disease, we will never leave, and we will always live together in the same boat and in need."
Many people ideal marriage is unconditional love, support and company, while in reality, marriage is only a value exchange.
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In 1987, Melinda, 22, served as a marketing manager at Microsoft.
At a business dinner, she met Bill Gates.
A few months later, they started dating.
In 1994, the two married on Lanai Island, Hawaii.
Yang Lan asked Bill Gates a question: "what is the smartest decision in your life? Microsoft or charity? "
Bill Gates replied, "it's not, it's my marriage to Melinda."
Bill Gates and Melinda are considered perfect marriages.
After learning about the divorce, Li Kaifu, chairman and CEO of Innovation workshop and former president of Microsoft, said:
Gates and his wife are the best lovers of the entrepreneurs I have ever met, and it is hard to believe in divorce news.
But the real situation is not necessarily as sweet as everyone sees.
Actually, Melinda said in an interview earlier that their marriage was not as beautiful as outsiders thought, but "incredibly difficult.".
"I still remember the most painful days of marriage, I think, can I keep it on," Melinda said in an interview with the Sunday Times in an interview to mark their 25th anniversary of marriage
Bill Gates, who is 65, has always been a workaholic, often 16 hours a day, and it's hard to spare time to accompany his family.
It is expected that Melinda, like all women, had been longing for her husband's company, comfort and support in marriage, but was deeply hurt by Bill Gates' busy and neglected.
You have also had similar feelings, all said marriage is to accompany, but in marriage we, sometimes feel lonely.
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Why do people want to get married?
The ideal model is because of love.
In the ultimate destiny of human loneliness, we are eager to understand, appreciate and accompany.
And the occurrence of love makes us feel comfort, support, recognition and help, so that we are no longer lonely.
But when you enter marriage, you often feel the gap between ideal and reality:
When you need to be with you, you may get neglect;
When you need to understand, what you get may be negation;
When you need support, what you get may be control;
When you need help, you may get apathy.
Love is full of hope, but when we enter marriage, we often feel disappointed.
The reason is that the essence of love is emotional exchange; The essence of marriage is value exchange.
With the development of social economy, the independence of human becomes stronger and stronger. Everyone is an independent individual, and everyone has a wide range of values.
If you want to get the value return, you have to have the equivalent value first.
Whether two people can finally be together depends on whether they can provide value to each other.
In the progress of society, the development of the times will be more and more efficiency oriented, and inevitably, we will become more and more realistic.
One day, we all will reach the same consensus as in Bill Gates and Melinda's divorce statements:
If "continuing to keep a marriage relationship can no longer allow each other to continue to improve," it's time to separate.
And then we will also find that marriage is not an end, but an experience.
There is no perfect partner, only growing up.
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